When it comes to sex you might have a few essentials you keep to hand, just in case. Condoms tend to be standard. Sex toys are also popular in a number of bedrooms. But one thing that you will find in the drawer of almost everyone with an active sex life is lube.
Lubricant is one those essentials that we don’t really think about until we need it. It is something that should be kept to hand because it can make sex so much better. Don’t know enough about lube? We’re here to help.
Using it isn’t a bad thing
Sometimes you won’t even need the assistance of lubricants in the bedroom. You might be able to get your partner wet enough to make it all go smoothly. There are other times when you will need a little extra help.
It might be that you want to have a quickie, fucking your partner up against the wall. The wetter they are the better it is, and so a little squirt of your favourite lubricant can help a lot. It could even be that you have had a long sex session and want to make sure everything still feels good for them.
A lot of people decide not to use it because they think it is a sign of weakness. They feel as though needing it to make sex better means that they are “broken” in some way. That isn’t the case at all. In fact, it can really help to make sex a lot more intense and fun!
The right lube for the job
People tend to assume that one lube is as good as the other. This thinking is wrong. There are different lubes for different jobs, so it is essential that you get the right one for your favourite kind of fun.
Oil-based are readily available. Things like Vaseline are popular, as they can be bought cheaply. The problem is that these lubes can actually break down latex condoms, so if you are having safe sex, it might not be so safe anymore.
Silicone-based don’t break down condoms, so they are better to use during sex. They also don’t blend with water, meaning that they are perfect to use in the shower. However this also means that it is more difficult to wash it off. They also don’t work well with silicone sex toys, as they can destroy the material.
Water-based tend to be the most popular and common type. Yes, they wash off easily and can dry quickly, but all it takes is another pump to get going again. Another big plus? They are safe to use with condoms and your favourite sex toys, so your fun won’t be spoiled because your lube doesn’t like your equipment.
You can even get edible lubes in a variety of different flavours, especially for those of you who enjoy kissing your partner all over. It can really enhance oral sex and, if you buy the right ones, can taste really good.
An essential for anal
Using lubricant is an essential if you want to have anal sex. This might seem like a given, but there are still plenty of people out there who believe that the lube on condoms will be enough.
It won’t be. The more lube you have, the easier it is going to be. You might think that you don’t need any, especially if you and your partner have had anal before. But you will.
Not sure if you are going to need it? It is better to think of that saying: “it is better to have it and not need it than need it and not have it”. Keeping lubricants to hand is just going to make your sex life better.
Testing out different lubes
Not all lubes work for everybody. You might find one that you love and think is perfect for your needs, but your partner doesn’t enjoy it. Okay. This can be incredibly frustrating for you. However, it also gives you the perfect excuse to have more sex.
You can buy different ones to try out. Why not get a few different sachets and see which work best for you? You can test them out and have a lot of fun while doing it.
Got a favourite you want to recommend? Maybe you have some excellent tips for making the most of lube? Share them by leaving a comment in the box below.
Since then she has gained a fine reputation with her blogs on sex advice, sexual health and amusing news stories from around the globe. She is also a campaigner for the rights of sex workers from all over the world.
In her spare time, Lara keeps herself active by going running, and is something of a film buff. She also loves to go travelling.