Why You Should Swap Porn
April 10, 2015
Porn is great. For a short amount of time you get to escape to a fantasy land where every woman is perfectly shaven and busty, while every man has a cock that makes a police truncheon look small. Each position they try works flawlessly without a single sign of struggle or uncomfortableness, and as soon as the man even looks at the woman “OH MY GOD” she’s having an orgasm.
However, most people will point out that porn isn’t real life. We accept this. We know that we can’t immediately get into the downward facing dog yoga position for him to fuck us from behind, and that even if we can we won’t be able to last more than five seconds. We also know that cocks come in all shapes and sizes and that orgasms don’t work with just one thrust of a dick.
There are, however, some advances to watching porn… and watching it with your partner or swapping your favourite movies with your partner can be great for your relationship and your sex life. Here’s why.
The study says…
For every little thing we have wondered about sex, somewhere out there someone has conducted a study about it… and why not? We’re curious creatures, all eager to know the real advantages of fucking the night away and wanking off to your favourite porn star’s splayed pussy.
It should come as no surprise that there has been a study into the effect porn has had on us. Last month, the Journal of Sexual Medicine came out and claimed that men who watch porn actually have much better sex lives when compared to those who don’t. This is why science is sexy.
They had 280 participants involved and asked them about their porn use. They then found that those who did watch more porn actually found it a hell of a lot easier to get aroused than those men who didn’t.
Basically, watching porn increases your ability to get it up and keep it up… which is better for you and your sex life. Result!
Porn and your partner
To be honest, we could leave it there. Do you really need to know anymore? Watching porn is good for you, and you now have to perfect reason to go off and fap away to your cock’s desire. What else do you need to know?
Well, porn can also be great not only for your sex life, but also for your relationship with your partner. Emily Morse, a doctor of human sexuality, recently said that “watching porn together expands your sexual repertoire, which is the key to a long-lasting, enjoyable sex life.”
So not only is watching porn on your own a great way to keep your cock healthy, but by sharing it with your partner you get to enhance your sex life even more. Yet another excuse to have those favourites on Pornhub.
Does swapping work?
There seem to be two very different camps when it comes to swapping porn. On one side you have Jenny Brett, a writer over at Cosmopolitan.com, who decided that, since she and her boyfriend watch a lot of porn on their own, it might be an interesting experiment to see how swapping porn worked.
They swapped, and she talked about how different their porn preferences were. “Mine were primarily 20-minute-long, poorly-lit, amateurishly shot, unedited videos of youngish married couples. His were more or less what I suspected I’d get.”
Afterwards they talked about the porn they’d just watched. They discovered that, while they both had different tastes in porn, there were some overlaps. “If the clip wasn’t too well lit or too long or too middle-aged or too respectful or too high-budget, and only featured one couple and the woman had a nice ass that was on display most of the time and there seemed to be enough un-manufactured chemistry between them, it worked for both of us.”
Yes, it does sound like a very specific mix of porn types there, but if it works for them, who are we to argue?
Why don’t you do it?
So while Jenny Brett’s example might not be the greatest, it shows that they are actually a lot closer together because they can find some common ground porn to watch.
In fact, the sex shop Ann Summers surveyed women to find out if they watch porn with their partners, and a huge 96% said they did. Not only did they admit to watching it with their other halves, but they also said they liked watching it with them!
So why are you men so scared on popping on the porn while cuddling in bed with your sexy lady?
Basically, you worry that your partner will take one look at you when you’ve suggested it and kick you out… but honestly, if you approach it in the right way she will be totally on board and you can have some great fun together.
Talking porn
There are some things that you need to do to prepare her to watch porn with you. For a start, when you bring it up make sure it is at the right time. Asking when you’ve both had a hot and steamy sex session is good, as you will both be relaxed and open to more ideas.
As much as you might want to show her your favourite sexy money shot, let her choose the porn. It will give you a great insight into what she likes, and then you can show her yours later.
If you do manage to find porn you both like, don’t go for a cheeky wank while she’s sitting next to you. If it is turning you on that much, you can show her. Touch her, stroke her, kiss her for as long as you can before you get down to it. Holding out for as long as you can with a steamy video in the background will be a huge turn on for you both.
Sometimes, what she enjoys might not work for you, and vice versa. If that happens, talk about it afterwards. See if you can find a middle ground and, if you can’t, don’t panic. Just because you can’t watch porn together doesn’t mean you have a shit sex life. In fact, it might just mean your sex life is better than any of the porn you watch!
Have you ever watched porn with your partner, or do you like to keep it to yourself? Let us know by writing your comment in the box below.
Since then she has gained a fine reputation with her blogs on sex advice, sexual health and amusing news stories from around the globe. She is also a campaigner for the rights of sex workers from all over the world.
In her spare time, Lara keeps herself active by going running, and is something of a film buff. She also loves to go travelling.
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